So, how did you end the month of April?
Crying? Whining? Hating? Cursing? Loving? Sharing? Happy? Sad? Lukewarm?
For me, I ended the month of April with a 3 hours success training session with Coach Lanre Olusola organized by FATE Foundation as a way of adding value to the lives of their volunteers (I teach young entrepreneurs how to leverage the Internet).
I must confess FATE has added value to my life for bringing in Coach Lanre Olusola to anchor this event. Although, the theme of the training was “becoming an innovative facilitator,” he spent a lot of time coaching us on various life skills. This is one major reason I admire the coaching profession, as a coach you will always look out for the best in others whether you are in full time or part time practice.
I registered a Coaching site – www.coachcfa.com close to 4 years now and have not really considered making it active. Although, I get mails from a lot of young Nigerians looking to start a career in Coaching, I still have not tapped into that opportunity for a number of reasons but not anymore – Coach Lanre Olusola did pour fuel into the fire already burning in me and only time can tell.
My intention today is to share some of the life changing tips I learnt from him, it’s not like I don’t already know a bit but you see like most humans, I have a challenge implementing the little I already know, (which is the action part) and this is exactly what makes all the difference – not the acquisition of knowledge.
Ok! So, here we go…..
Coach Lanre Olusola reminded us that the greatest skill you must acquire in life, if you hope to become a great facilitator or excellent communicator is “listening skills” I bet like me you have heard this for the umpteenth time but the question is how much of this have you put into practice?
Why would God ask us to pray when he already knows all our needs? I bet God Almighty is the greatest listener who loves to listen to us.
Also, the Bible gives so many examples to prove that our Lord Jesus Christ and Apostle Paul were great listeners also – such that each time they spoke or responded, it was very impactful.
During the process of listening you focus would naturally be on the speaker and this will help you in your delivery or response. As a facilitator, when you focus on your students or trainees then you have a greater chance of teaching them more of what they need to learn and not what you want them to learn. Because in the final analysis is not about you but about them!
Next….. Humility to learn
The most flexible in thinking and behavior is the most powerful innovator. You don’t know it all so remind yourself always that you are ignoramus. Make it a duty to learn from someone, some people etc. The day you stop learning, you die……
Humility is critical if you must be an innovative trainer.
Coach Lanre admonished us to learn from our trainees and students. We should not come to class (or in life generally) believing that we know it all. Make it a duty to learn something new from everyone you meet because they might have some information that can make your life better.
The day you stop learning is the day you die
Knowing the difference between truth and true?
Truth is universal but what is true is subjective to perception. If you’re anywhere like me, then you may have to drastically change your mindset and set aside certain personal beliefs, you think are unversal truths that everyone else has to accept.
In other to get where you want to, you ought to discover those beliefs that will take you there and then those that can possibly stop you.
Perception is stronger than reality.
Coach Lanre defined Perception as your internal interpretation and representation of facts. People’s interpretation of existing facts varies. Your perception colours your experience.
Questions to help you gauge your perception
- What is my angle?
- Why do I see things from this perceptive?
- How does it limit your facilitation?
- What perspectives do you need for balance?
His parting words…..
Did you know the average human processes close to 70,000 thoughts per day? Now can you believe that about 70% of these thoughts are completely negative and dis-empowering questions. Fight those negative thoughts!
Hope this helps? I would love to hear your thoughts and comments.